Today I want to share about relationships.
How many people do you know have fallen in and out of life?
Are they the same people making the same Mistakes?
Do you see it better from the outside because it does not hurt you when you are not involved?
How are you doing in your own relationship?
I have been in and out of relationships starting my first relationship at a very young age. I was never to be blamed for all of the failure as i always thought over the years. They were either to boring, too demanding, too time consuming, cannot catch up with me or everything else they did was wrong. I fall in love and I get hurt. I push it all aside to go on to yet another pain.
After more than a handful of relationships, I finally sat down and gave it a good thought. I have always blamed someone else for the relationships not working. Finally one day through the pain and experience, I realised how this phrase applies to all relationships. "It takes two to clap"
I have never taken responsibility for my own mistakes. I have never ask myself what i want in a relationship/partner. I just jumped into love for the value of love. But I never really loved most of them. I never knew what i really wanted.
I have spoken to tons of couples over the years. Different issues and "stories" comes back to one issue. No one knew what they wanted or what their partners wanted. We do not take a plane not knowing where we are flying to. Why then do we do this to ourselves in the aspect of our love life?
This week, I have been surrounded by 4 couples who recently broke up from who they thought was "The One" It may seem silly to anyone that you would have known what you want in a partner and vice versa when you get into a committed relationship. Just as i have expected, none of them actually knew what they wanted and hence.... The painful breakup....
If you are single, Lucky you! Think about what you want/need to look for in your partner. Know your destination before you jump on the next "Ship". It will definitely help to make the "ship" a whole lot easier to sail to the dock.
If you are already attached/ married, Well.... not too late. Sit down and figure out what matters to you most in a partner and vice versa. Remember, no one is perfect but work out the differences with each other and you will notice the difference yourselves.
Love life! Till then.....
